7 Reasons We’ll Continue to Homeschool (That Have Nothing To Do With Why We Started)

Posted on Updated on

Almost a year ago we started considering home schooling.  In case you don’t know me, this was way, way off my expected life path.  But I was really discouraged by the direction Josiah’s school experience was headed.  To be honest, Josiah’s academic needs were the primary catalyst for us choosing to home school.  Because he was on an IEP and I started to believe no teacher was ever going to have the time to get around to working on it with him.  Because he is a gifted boy with great potential (which, by the way, is what I’ve come to believe about every kid), and I felt that potential was being squandered in a class of 30 students.  Because he could have easily blended in and flown under the radar until grade 12 and come out with an average school experience.  Because by grade 4 it’s not cool to be smart and he was embarrassed by it.  Because he resented his own strengths.  And because the reality I saw unfolding for Josiah was what I believed would eventually happen with Abby.

But the thing is, I couldn’t fully define all the reasons we were choosing to home school, yet I knew in my heart that it was right for us, and I believed the rest of the reasons would reveal themselves in time.  And have they ever.  Seven months into this journey, here are 7 discoveries I’ve made.

hamster wheel1. We stepped off the hamster wheel.  The last few years of our family’s life have revolved around the demands of a traditional school schedule.  Daily, weekly, monthly, annually.  We rushed.  We squeezed in.  We ran around.  I was impatient.  I was tired.  I felt disconnected from my kids.  And it felt like it never ended.  Now our life has a new rhythm and an enjoyable pace.  By the time we start school at 9:15 or 9:30, I’ve already had 90 minutes of time alone to work out and do my devotions and get my head in the right space for the day.  We ease into our work, and we’re done school by 1 or 2 o’clock.  In that time we’ve had a recess and lunch break, and when we call it a day, my kids have truly free time.  No homework or chores, except the usual family responsibilities around dinner.  When I go to bed each night, I look forward to the next day.  That’s no small thing.

2. The kids are exposed to a variety of activities.  When the kids were in traditional school, our lives felt more hectic, so I vigilantly limited the extra-curricular activities they chose for my own sanity.  But now, because our mornings are our own, learning at a good pace, we are ready to head out into the world for fun and activity in the afternoons.  I’m happy to have my kids in these activities now and they don’t feel like the burden they once did.  This year my kids have taken part in dance, piano, choir, curling, basketball, DI, boys club, and are about to head into swimming, volleyball, and baseball.  They can enjoy so many more of these things because we can be more efficient with their school work time in the mornings.

3. I set the agenda.  We have a daily and weekly routine that is based on our priorities, but if we need to stray from it, we do.  God’s Word and prayer are important to us, so that’s how we start each day.  We have a plan, but if it’s freakishly gorgeous outside, we’re going to alter that plan and spend extra time outside.  If I get a sense one of my kids needs my undivided attention, I send the other one to play and follow my instinct to invest in that one in that moment.  I feel more free to follow the Spirit’s lead in our life.  So I guess this one is less about setting my own agenda, and more about following God’s agenda for our days.

4. More meaningful discussion.  Countless times in our week, my kids ask questions or topics come up that lend themselves to great conversations.  Because we spend unhurried time together each day, we can indulge in these chats.  There’s no rush to move to the next thing.  In fact, there is no more important thing.  One of my biggest values as a parent is to be available for my kids to discuss life and apply God’s truth.  I used to have to struggle to create those moments, but now they come naturally, on a regular basis.

5. I’m their biggest influence, and Jesus is mine.  I confess, the one thing I used to criticize about home schooling was that it pulled kids out of the real world and away frommother daughter  people who needed Christ.  I still believe we have a great responsibility to engage the world and be intentional about being in relationship with people who don’t know Jesus.  But this point is different for me.  It’s best explained through Abby.  Already, in grade 1, I could see that Abby was affected by girl drama.  I could see the beginnings of pecking order and cooler kids and how she was starting to behave to maintain her social position.  She was learning a lot of social and relational lessons at school, but not necessarily the ones I felt would serve her best in life.  The relational lessons I want Abby to learn as a 7 year old are best taught in much smaller groups than 22, and the best person to teach and model those lessons to her is her mother.  I’m not perfect, by any stretch.  But, I am the best person to teach and model life lessons to my children.  That’s how God designed it.  So, with all my heart, I seek Jesus, and then I pray they will see him in me every day.

6. We live real life together.  Because we’re not running around on the aforementioned hamster wheel, my kids take part in real life with me.  They’re more involved in house cleaning and cooking.  They know when one of my friends is having a hard time and we need to break so I can listen.  We recently had my niece and nephew stay with us for over a week while my sister-in-law was in the hospital, and my kids saw first hand what it looks like to interrupt your life to really love your family.  It feels a lot more like we’re living life together as opposed to living our own lives in the same house.

7. We’ve changed.  It took a good friend to point out this benefit, which I was slow to recognize.  My kids and I all behave differently.  We’re more calm.  Content, she called it.  I’ve noticed Josiah is more involved in grown up conversations.  He contributes.  He’s not so hard on himself when he makes a mistake.  I’ve noticed Abby is less high strung.  Less competitive.  More compassionate.  Throws fewer tantrums. And I’ve noticed that I’m more the mom I want to be.  Sometimes I think that reason alone would be enough to continue.

Advertisements

4 thoughts on “7 Reasons We’ll Continue to Homeschool (That Have Nothing To Do With Why We Started)

    Trish said:
    March 18, 2014 at 2:34 pm

    Jen, this was a blessing to read. Keep up the wonderful work you are doing as a Mom and a teacher. Trish Poland

      jendhansen2013 responded:
      March 19, 2014 at 3:31 am

      Thanks so much for your encouragement, Trish! 🙂

        Zoe dove Loosdrecht said:
        March 19, 2014 at 7:16 pm

        I enjoyed reading about your journey. It encouraged me 🙂

        jendhansen responded:
        March 21, 2014 at 6:28 am

        Thanks so much for reading, and for taking time to comment! You have encouraged me in return. 🙂

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s